|Good News - July 2017
Into The Fire
Normally I wouldnít
consider this good advice. From the time we are Leahís age, everybody tells us
that when it comes to fire, away is
generally the better direction. When it comes to literal fire, we rightly honor
and respect those who choose to run in,
rather than away, because they are risking their lives to save those they donít
even know. For those whom that is their calling (I know we have some at
Woodlane), you are the exception to that rule.
But for now, I donít
write about literal fire. I write about one that is more figurative, but in
many ways just as dangerous. Iím talking about conflict, real or imagined. It
can burn. It can destroy. It can leave behind a wake of damage that makes you
wonder how you survived. And thatís before it even beginsÖ
Allow me to back up.
A few weeks ago, I heard of a friend that was upset, hurt even. Heís not the
kind of person who is super-sensitive, and while I knew I should probably check
in with him (simply because thatís what friends do), I racked my brain and
could only think of a few far-reaching things I might have done to hurt said
friend. Nickelís worth of free advice Ė Rick Warren got it right when he
reminds people ďItís not about youĒ in Purpose Driven Life.
I didnít get the
chance to talk to my friend until the next day. We had a good conversation and,
as it turned out, my friend was worn down about something completely unrelated to me or anything I had done (insert Rick
Warrenís wisdom yet again).
Why do I emphasize
that? Because for a good 24 hours previous, I blew all my energy thinking how
that phone call might go. Truth be
told, it was pretty significant. I donít remember exactly, but if the kids were
having a rough afternoon, I guarantee I wasnít going to be making it any better
because of my pre-occupation with a not-yet-happened phone call.
My point Ė if thereís
conflict, again real or imagined, run into
it. Deal with it. Get it done. Swallow the frog, as some say. Otherwise,
the safe bet says your imagination will hype it up far more than you need to.
Itís biologically proven how many hundreds of chemical responses your body has
just thinking about a stress like
conflict. No use experiencing those any longer than necessary.
I pray you donít have
to practice this too often, but if you do, run into the fire. If itís really a
dire situation, then at least you are expending your energy appropriately. If
itís not (or if itís nothing, like mine), then you can dump the elephant off
your back and return to living an abundant life. That, I pray, you do very often!